7 Things Women Must Be Sure Of Before Having Sex
Sex, however casual the culture right now might make it seem, can go bizarrely wrong if you do not know certain things before you get into this. Women, especially the young ones may be misguided, misinformed, and might not be prepared to have a healthy sex life.
It has not been a lot of time since sex became a dinner –table conversation in our country. Maybe we’re still not there completely but it is only fair and evident to assume that it has become much less of a taboo in recent times than compared to how it was 10 years ago. This stands especially true for women. No, needless to say, women have a lesser reference point when it comes to maintaining a healthy sex life. So here are 7 basic things that women should know before having sex.
Consent is not simply about agreeing or not agreeing to have sex with someone. Non-consensual sex is so much more common for women if they do not have adequate knowledge about what consent even means in the first place. If you have to be “convinced” to indulge sexually with someone, it is not consensual sex. if there is any mental pressure on you, or you are being guiled into having sex with someone, or if you are made to look like you owe someone sex, then it is not consensual sex. consent is when you want to indulge with someone sexually for your own sake without that being a condition made by someone.
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Another reason why sex education is extremely important in the current times is how misinformed people are about the adequate protection you need to take. Teach yourself about protection, the use of condoms, the complications that can arise from unprotected sex.
There is too much misinformation about avoiding an unwanted pregnancy. To whomsoever it may concern- there is no day in a month where you can be sure of not getting pregnant, pulling it out at the right time is useless and a myth, and NO, eating a lot of papayas will not heat your body enough to BOIL the sperms to death inside your body. None of this is true. Use protection.
However much you love or trust the person you are doing it with, filing your sexual moments is never a good idea. it is better to not have any of your sexual moments recorded for many reasons. Your perceptions about a certain person may be wrong and it is better to not leave things behind that can cause you to harm later. It only takes minutes to circulate content that can harm you for a long time. Not only should you agree to record anything (especially if someone is trying too hard to convince) but also make sure to check the premise for any device taping you if you are doing it in an unfamiliar place like a hotel room.
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4- Make sure you choose a compatible person
The hook-up culture is here to stay. Just as much as there is nothing wrong with it, it is also true that you should be very careful about the person and the reason you decide to do it (with). Make sure that you set your expectations straight and have an adult conversation with the person about it. Be very clear and transparent about why you are doing it and for how long you decide to do it.
5- Sexually transmitted diseases
Sexually transmitted diseases are one of the crucial things women should be aware of before they indulge with a partner. It might not be the most romantic thing to ask a person about HIV and Herpes on your first date, neither are we asking you to make them provide medical certificates for a sexual green flag (although… try.). But when it comes to sex, you need to know what you are getting into. And even if you have other forms of precautions to avoid pregnancy, you still need to continue taking the adequate protection against STDs.
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6- Be sure of your reason
you need to be very clear about WHY you are having sex in the first place because there are many wrong reasons to do it. Be sure that indulging sexually is not your way to prove a point, or fit into a culture. Your reasons can be simple but it needs to be honest.
7- Know that sex is not something that you GIVE
It is usually a misconception even in modern times that sex is something you give a man. A woman’s role is sex is not to merely provide. You need to be very aware of your sexual needs and have the courage to assert it. It is not a favor or a transaction. It is an activity that includes two people so make sure that you are not being sidelined as a provider in your own sex-life.