8 Questions To Ask Your To Be Partner Before You Decide To Move Ahead!
You have never been this happy before and you want to stay this happy your entire life. But you’re confused. Is this the man you want to get married to? Will you be together forever? Does he feel the same way about you?
We understand that you want to be sure, but you can’t keep on pestering or observing his every move to know if he’s ‘The One’ for you. Worry not, we’ve got you sorted. Here’s a list of some deep questions to ask your boyfriend before you decide to move ahead:
1. Does he visualize himself spending a lifetime with you?
This might sound very trivial, but this is the most important question to ask. There might be sunshine around you right now and you both probably feel the spark. But will you still want to be together after 10 years? Does your partner want to sit next to you in his faded pyjamas and watch a cricket match? If both of you see yourself together, then that’s great but if you are not sure, maybe you need to reconsider your decision.
2. What does he want from this relationship?
Ask him what he wants from this relationship — is he looking for a long-time companionship or is he just rushing into it because you want him to take the next step? Give him some time to ponder over this question and let him be absolutely sure before you both take the leap.
Also, ask him about the kind of relationship he wants to be in — an exclusive one or an open one.
3. What are his long term goals/financial goals?
Money is one of the most common factors behind relationship stress, and being clear about each other’s goals will be an important step in your relationship. Ask him where does he see himself professionally and financially in five years and if or not being in a serious relationship with you will be a deterrent.
You both need to be on the same page about your dreams and aspirations for a meaningful and honest relationship.
4. What does he think about having a family?
Try planning your future with him. Will he want to have children at some point of time? Will you be okay with having kids if he wants them? There are some fronts of life where one cannot compromise and the question of the family is one of them. It’s great if you both want the same things but if you don’t, then you need to sit down and make a decision right away.
5. How much responsibility is he willing to take in household duties?
If you are planning to get married or move in with him, discuss the household responsibilities and get it sorted before you take the big step. From bills to rent to cooking dinner and walking your dog, discuss everything you want to.
While you’re doing this, you can also talk to him about his views on gender equality and the patriarchal norms of the society. This might sound political and insignificant, but a relationship built on mutual understanding and respect is a long-lasting one.
6. Can you both handle conflict?
Two free-thinking individuals are bound to have conflicting opinions, but it is important to resolve the conflict without hurting each other’s feelings. Both of you should be able to understand and respect the opinion of the other. This does not mean that one will have to compromise; both of you should be heard, but you should be open to logic and facts. Even if it’s about an issue that cannot be resolved, your difference in opinion shouldn’t create a rift between you two.
7. Does anything about you annoy him?
Ask this directly and make it clear at the start. It can be the way you chew your food or the way you snort while laughing, if small things about you annoy him, then you might want to take some time before making the big decision.
8. Will he have your back no matter what?
This is important. You always need to stay together. Will your partner support you when his parents have issues with you or will you be hanged out to dry? It’s not just about love, it’s also about companionship and trust.
We hope these questions help you out while making one of the most important decisions of your life. But remember, life cannot be perfectly planned and you should be ready to appreciate the beautiful surprises coming your way. Read this blog out to know more. For many such blogs, sign in to Fuzia today!