We used to once live in a time, where sex, in general, was a tabooed subject for everyone. Now, we live in a slightly better time where sex is only tabooed for women. Even after years and years of sexual awareness and education and feminism, women are somehow expected to be subtler when it comes to matters of intimacy. It is funny that the most sexualized gender is kept the most away from sexual rights and freedom.
One of the problems that still prevails even among youngsters is a woman’s hesitation to buy condoms from a chemist. We see that women have opened up a lot of terms of sexual awareness and talking about it, but this problem still prevails.
This is why you women should not feel ashamed to buy condoms -
1- IT IS A BIGGER PROBLEM THAT YOU MIGHT THINK
It can seem negligible as there is always someone else readily available. It is so easy that it might seem like a waste of time politicizing it. The reason that most women hesitate to buy condoms is their fear of judgment. Women have been scrutinized over their sexuality ever since puberty by the whole society and maybe even the family. This leaves a lasting impact on women even as they grow up and they hesitate to acknowledge their sexual desires in front of someone else. That is why this is a bigger deal than it seems. Every time you avoid being judged by hesitating to buy your condoms, you succumb more and more into the prejudices that you have learned. Even if you do not consciously conform to them, you are learning to live by the boundaries.
2- IT IS NOT AS BAD AS YOU THINK
It is true that women are often judged by society for their sexual openness. This leads to women if everyone would judge them and then continue to act out of it without ever rectifying it. Imagine the number of people that walk in and out of a chemist’s store. Imagine how many of them bought condoms. Imagine how many of them were women. How many of them do you think they are going to remember and care enough about to actively make judgments? They probably will not care or remember. Most of your hesitation might be a result of your upbringing and not relevant to someone else’s judgment patterns.
3- IT IS YOUR RIGHT
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We talked enough about judgments and hesitations and whether they really judge or if you just imagine it. The truth is their judgment is not yours to care about. If you are an adult woman, indulging in sex consensually is your right. And hence buying a condom is also your right. But we have been taught to base our rights on what the people around us allow us to do. But quite simply. If you are paying for it and it is legal to buy no one must right to make you uncomfortable or stop, you from doing so. So, it is time to put behind the need for everyone to sexually woke and just start doing your own thing.
4- YOU WILL ONLY HESITATE ONCE 5- MORE OPTIONS AVAILABLE THAN EVER BEFORE
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Most women find out that their hesitation and fear only last till they buy a condom once on their own. Women either always depend on men to buy basic sexual essentials or they always do it on their own. This means that their fear of judgment and hesitation is mostly just anticipated than realized. So maybe if you try and buy it your bubble will burst and you will realize that no one cares as much. So, before you believe firmly in your assumptions, try, and act once and so you can make an informed opinion.
5- MORE OPTIONS AVAILABLE THAN EVER BEFORE
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There is no reason for a woman to hesitate or feel ashamed to buy condoms. It is your right and you should not have to think of other people’s perspectives. But having said that, these days you do not even have to be uncomfortable buying condoms with so many options available. You can order it online or you can go to a self-billing supermarket. These are options available if you are still not ready to put yourself in a situation of buying your condoms. But we promise you that it is not as bad as you think.
These are some of the reasons why you absolutely should not hesitate to buy condoms on your own. It is your right and you should not have to conform to society’s judgments. You must realize that you are more or less conditioned by the same society and certain inhibitions are taught to you before you even know it. So unlearn them one by one to make a better place for women in the world. Or at least in the waiting line of a medical store.
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